In Reitman’s Men, Women & Children, Don Truby (played by Adam Sandler) is a sexually unsatisfied man. So much so that, while perusing his son’s computer for porn (a desperate act after his own computer breaks), he comes across a pop-up ad for escort hire, and the rest is history. To gain an insight into one person’s sexual escapades, we spoke with an anonymous woman who uses Aphrodisiac Male Escorts – a female-only escort service. Here’s your look into the secret life of one very satisfied individual:
Do you keep your use of male escorts a secret from your friends/family? Why/why not?
I tell my husband, who has no problem with it. We’ve discussed it openly and he’s very supportive of my need to explore my sexuality and immerse in new physical experiences. My mother knows (and is jealous), and I’ve told close friends (to whom I’ve recommended the service). I choose to share with those closest to me, who I trust and who are interested in the whole of my life. I’d like to be even more open about it, as I passionately believe it shouldn’t be a taboo subject, but I remain relatively discreet as many aren’t comfortable with the idea. I’m not worried about being ‘judged’ – I’d just rather not overcomplicate matters or distress people unnecessarily.
What do you like most about hiring male escorts? Do you prefer the companionship or physical aspect more?
For me, it’s physical. I’m a 40 year old woman with a roaring libido and a loving partner who can’t satisfy me on his own. I have ample companionship in my domestic life, so I’m not lonely. I’m someone with a lot of power and pressure in day to day life, and for me there’s a strong appeal in being physically dominated – i.e. having someone else do all the work while I focus purely on enjoying myself.
I love the fact that it’s a professional service like any other. You’re guaranteed a safe experience with a skilled lover, whose job is to deliver what you need. That’s not an experience anyone can generally get by simply going and picking someone up. As a woman it’s deeply rewarding to be able to relax and trust that you’re getting the best with no strings attached.
Would you tell a current or future partner about using male escorts? Why/why not?
Absolutely. I’m in a stable, long term marriage. But hypothetically I would absolutely tell a future partner if I was involved in a serious relationship with them. As I see it, if they love me, they love all of me, and it’s the kind of secret that could create issues if partners aren’t transparent. I’d probably bring it up relatively early, so as to avoid heartbreak for either party if they had a real issue with it down the track. I need to be with people that are open minded and support a woman’s right to pleasure. So if they were challenged by that – that’s fine – but they’re not the person for me. I’d consider it a benchmark for whether they could handle me.
Do you use the same male escort or different ones? Why/why not?
I have used three different escorts to date. All have been great – worthy of a repeat performance. I’ve simply wanted to ‘try on’ different experiences and scenarios, and I’m fascinated by what each man has to offer, and why they’re in this line of work.
Why did you start using male escorts?
A raging libido and a need to fulfil it without wanting to betray my wonderful husband with an emotional affair, or risk falling in love. It’s also always been on the bucket list as an intriguing fantasy. And now that I’ve done it, I want others to know that it matters that women have access to this service – and the playing field for escorts could do with some levelling. In fact, this interview is starting an itch for another booking…