Frantic? Can’t possibly take anything out of your schedule? Modern life is flat out, and that’s that.
Or is it?
Have a look through the following ‘types’ of busy (adapted from Soul Sisters Empowerment Groups), and see if you can identify your own style.
‘Badge-of-honour’ Busy
Being busy equals being significant. Keeping your schedule jam-packed keeps you as important as everyone else – it’s how you create your worth.
People say, ‘I don’t know how you do it!’ (and secretly, you love hearing that). The truth is, though, you don’t know how you do it either – or even if you want to. All you know is that other people notice and admire you what you’re doing – and you love that.
‘Nobody does this as well as I do’ Busy
You’d like to cut things out of your schedule, but you’d probably end up doing them anyway, because nobody else does things ‘properly’. Exhibit A: the way he’s folded the towels! Exhibit B: those sentences your colleague wrote! You’ll have to do it all again!
You’re the only one who can complete all that is expected of you at work and at home. Well, technically others could probably do it, but would they do it well enough? One of your most-used phrases is ‘Here – let me do it!’
‘Running away’ Busy
There is something big that you really should attend to: perhaps it’s an unhappy relationship, an unrewarding job or something else that you find very daunting.
Instead of tackling what should be first on your list, you fill your diary with unnecessary tasks so that you ‘don’t have time’ to face the important stuff.
You could go on like this indefinitely, filling your life with distraction, pushing the real problem under the surface while you invent excuses for not having time to address it.
‘Comfort zone’ Busy
You’d love to try a new hobby, online dating, seek a promotion at work or start a health kick – but it’s a big step and you’re scared. What if it doesn’t work out?
Staying busy keeps you in your comfort zone and protects you from taking the risk. The more busy you are, the longer you’re ‘off the hook’ and safe from failure.
‘People pleaser’ Busy
You have a need to be liked. ‘Yes’ comes out of your mouth before you even consider an alternative response. What if you say ‘no’ and they don’t like you as much? What if there’s conflict?
Is it easier and safer just to take the request on? YES! You’ll do it! And you’re exhausted!
‘Flapping’ Busy
You’re disorganised at home and at work. You spend a huge amount of time looking for things that you’ve misplaced. You’re regularly late for appointments. You leave everything til the last minute and flap around like a teenage drama queen.
Your lack of organisation and your ‘overwhelm antics’ create chaos and manufacture extra work. It takes you much longer to accomplish things than it could.
‘Scared to ask’ Busy
You’re not sure you understand the task. Rather than seek clarification, you go to enormous lengths to try to work it out yourself.
You’re scared of asking ‘silly questions’ and choose to complicate your life in an effort to avoid these. You’ll send emails rather than call, then waste time waiting for a response.
Uncovering your motivation to stay so over-burdened is the first step in untangling yourself from a life that is ‘busy’ … and creating in its place a life that is ‘full’. What a difference that makes.
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