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It is a great feeling to have when you start to realise that you may well have the found that special person who could end up becoming the love of your life, but how do you know if cupid’s arrow has managed to hit the target?
One thing is for sure, playing the dating game is not always that much fun, especially when you take into account the amount of STD testing in major cities that rightly goes on, so it would be great to take yourself off the market and settle down with someone truly special.
Here are a few pointers that might help you to confirm if you have hit the love jackpot.
Space to breathe
If you are developing a healthy and loving relationship, this means that you will be spending a lot of time together, enjoying each other’s company, but a really positive addition to this scenario, is when you are also able to enjoy some time apart from each other.
It is often considered good for a relationship to give each other a reasonable amount of personal space.
In order to develop our own sense of well being and to be able to express ourselves on an individualistic basis, it helps to have some space. If you are with someone who appreciates how important that is, it can only be a good sign for the longevity and healthiness of your relationship.
Focus of your attention
If you have stopped speculating whether there might be someone better for you just waiting to be discovered, that is a big clue that you may well have found someone who ticks all of your boxes and could be the soul mate you have been searching for, up until now.
If there really is only one person who you want to send flirty messages to and have spicy conversations with, then it might be time to call of the search, as you may just have found the right someone.
No hurry, no worries
Another positive sign that you are in a healthy relationship is when you are both cool about reaching relationship milestones, and are in no particular hurry to do so.
Strong couples often understand that many of the best things in life are well worth the wait, so if you are planning to spend your future together, what is the rush?
More important in this type of strong relationship, is the opportunity to live the moment and savor every aspect of building a great life together, and even celebrate occasions that might not seem much like milestones, but are significant to both of you in your own way.
Trust is key
If you were asked to describe one of the fundamental foundation stones of any relationship, it would be a big surprise if trust wasn’t mentioned.
Most of would agree that all great relationships have to enjoy a strong level of trust. When you look back at previous encounters and relationship problems, trust issues may well have been at the heart of the matter.
You need to be able to trust each other implicitly and build the strength of that bond and trust between you over a period of time.
There for each other
There are always going to be some bumps in the road as you go through life, some worse than others, and it helps if you have someone by your side who can give you the love and support you need to see things through.
If you have someone who is able to hold you together through a difficult time and is there for you no matter what, that is a cast-iron sign of a healthy and longstanding relationship.
The only way is forward
You wouldn’t drive a car using the rear view mirror, and the same analogy applies to a strong relationship, where you are both committed to going forward and are able to let go of anything that has gone on in the past.
It is not a good thing if you let events of the past influence the way you think now and move forward. Of course, you have to be able to grow and learn from any past mistakes, but a strong relationship is very much one where you both hold the view that the only way to go is to look ahead and not behind.
If you see some or all of these qualities in your relationship, it is a good sign that cupid’s arrow will well have scored a direct hit and delivered someone who will be the love of your life.
About the Author
Oscar Coles works as a relationship therapist. Not content just to help the people in his office, he also writes articles to help an online audience find love and keep it.